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Are you a claimer or a blamer?

“It is a painful thing to look at your own trouble and know that you yourself and no one else has made it.” – Sophocles

The difference between people that find love and those who don’t is ATTITUDE!

Positive people with an open mind and open heart find love. They claim their position in life and do something about it to create change. Positive individuals are sought after. They have the spark and charisma that’s highly attractive to others. Claimers find love with their openness and warmth towards others. Claimers always see the brighter side of life.

On the other hand, there are blamers. They blame others for their life circumstances. Blamers have demanding negative attitudes and rarely express gratitude.  Blamers are always complaining at every opportunity, from the restaurant food, the traffic, their job, they talk about their ex partners negatively and they find fault in every individual they meet.

Blamers even attack the people around them that are trying helping them. They think all the good singles are gone and the world owes them someone fit enough for a celebrity despite their own imperfections. Blamers have a long list of what they are looking for in a partner yet fall short themselves.

Unfortunately blamers are disempowering themselves their negative attitude is pushing others away, no one wants to listen to their bitterness.

 

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Are you a claimer or a blamer?

As the old saying goes “When you point a finger at someone else, there are three fingers pointing back at you.”

For all you blamers out there – and you know who you are –  take charge and be accountable for your attitude. Only you can make a change. Own your emotions and life’s circumstances. Lose the negativity before you lose all your friends. Express gratitude and take on a positive approach to your search for a partner. Understand that no one is perfect – including you –  but there is someone out there that’s your perfect match!

Adopting a mindset of total ownership is crucial to succeeding, no matter what your life’s situation.

When dating isn’t running as smoothly as you would have liked, perhaps your not meeting someone that ticks all your boxes, or your expectations aren’t being met. Do you look at your own self as to how you could be contributing or do you blame others? Are you looking for excuses not to meet someone or looking for faults?  I can assure you if you look hard enough, you will find them.

So riddle me this; Are you a blamer or a claimer?

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