No matter how long you’ve been single, I truly believe anyone can find the partner of their dreams in 28 days or less.
I know what you’re thinking; Woah woah, hold up a second. I’ve been single for months – even years – how do you know the magic password to the kingdom of love?”
Ever heard the expression; “in order to love, you must first love yourself?” I have, and let me tell you, it’s true. Self actualisation is numero uno in the steps to success. If you don’t value your own company, how do you expect anyone else to?
Emotions are contagious. Ever been a room when a few people start to yawn? You start to feel a little tired yourself, don’t you? Maybe let out a yawn of your own?
In the same breath (so to speak), happiness is contagious too. And we all know happiness is the seed that allows love to grow. So whether you’re at work, the shops, or even a singles event, walk around with a smile on your dial. Be energetic, engaging and responsive, even if the environment or subject matter is a little bland. You will soon find that those around you will smile in return.
What was it that Descartes said? I think therefore I am?
Let me share a secret with you. If you don’t believe you can find someone special, chances are you probably won’t. Write down a list of everything you look for in a partner. From the way they look, to their personality traits and values, right down to their favourite colour. Now do the same for you. Be bold and write down all of your strengths and weaknesses.
Now compare the two lists. How similar are you to your perfect partner? Remember, one of the points we stress here is the importance of compatibility. Apples go with other apples. Funny people are well matched with other funny people in the long term. If your perfect partner has a six pack, do you?
Apply the parietal principal 80/20 rule to your perfect partner criteria. In other words, eliminate at least 20% of your list. Remove anything and everything that you can live without (i.e. height, hair colour). You should be left with around 5-10 key criteria.
It’s funny what happens next. Call it fate, call it an old wives tale, call it an aligning of the stars. Whatever it is, within a month of writing the list, you’re supposed to meet your perfect partner.
28 days. Four weeks. One month. That’s all it takes. It’s not an exact science, but hey, it’s worth a shot.
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