5 Steps to A Successful First Date

Listen up, men.  You may have a date lined up and ready to go, but getting that first date is only half the battle.

In order to achieve that coveted second date, you will actually have to make your date want to see you again.

Well just like anything else in life, dating is a skill that needs to be mastered and worked to perfection.  You may be the greatest guy in the world, but if you don’t know how to reveal the best aspects of your personality on a date while maintaining proper etiquette, you will never find the success you are looking for.

In this article, I am going to discuss five fundamental ways to help ensure a successful first date.

1.  Come prepared.

If you were going on a job interview, would you prepare for the interview, or just show up hoping for the best?  If you are a qualified candidate, odds are you would heavily prepare.  The same should go for dating.

In essence, a first date is nothing more than an interview where both parties decide whether or not they want to see one another again.  So give your date some good reasons to be interested in preparing the perfect date spots, prepping in advance some interesting topics to discuss in the event that there is a lull in the conversation, and overall, having a mental game plan of how the night should go.  The more prepared you are for all situations beforehand, the smoother the date will operate.

2.  Create new experiences.

Some dates tend to fall into the trap of becoming one long storytelling session, in which each party tells their greatest life experiences.  Sure, a few stories here and there are great to tell and will make for some interesting conversation.  But the date should not be an endless barrage of life stories and memories from the past.  Instead, focus on creating new stories and new memories.  Take your date to places that are memorable, fun, and exciting, while leaving the past, largely in the past.  There will be plenty of time to share all your greatest stories as the relationship progresses.

3.  Plan according to your date’s personality.

Just because you have had a successful date at a fancy lounge in the past, doesn’t mean that should be your go-to spot with every person you take out.  Each woman comes with a unique set of interests and personality traits.  Instead of planning the same cliché date for every woman you meet, plan according to your dates likes and dislikes.  If your date is into art, an art-themed trip to an art gallery would make for a memorable experience.  Get the idea?  Plan accordingly and you will not only impress, but you will make your date one to be remembered.

4.  Learn how to listen.

One of the most frustrating experiences a woman can have is being on a date with a man who simply does not listen.  Sometimes men talk too much out of nervousness.  Sometimes it’s out of a subconscious pressure to feel as if they have to impress at all times.  Other times it’s simply a lack of social awareness.  Whatever the case may be, don’t make the date all about you.  A good rule of thumb is to talk no more than fifty per cent of the time.

5.  Don’t be a creep.

Women become nervous enough as it is before going on a first date.  The last thing you want to do is make them feel even more uncomfortable by being overly aggressive with your hands or making inappropriate comments.  Yes, it’s a good thing to touch your date in small ways, such as a touch on the arm or shoulder.  But heavy petting is unacceptable.  Cosmopolitan tells us that; don’t turn into a creep who won’t take no for an answer. There’s a fine line and if it’s crossed, our legs are going to remain crossed indefinitely.

If a woman wants you to touch her aggressively, trust me, you will know.  Until then, down boy!   And keep those sexually charged comments to yourself!

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Robyn Nind is a dating coach and matchmaker at Blue Label Life. Robyn has helped countless singles find love and a partner.

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