If only it was that easy! The dating game can be a daunting experience to even the most confident person, whether they are new to the scene or experienced. Knowing what to wear, what to say, where to go, when to call and how often to contact the person can quickly turn a fun and exciting experience into a stressful one.
Everyone feels nervous before a first date.
Believe it or not, almost everyone feels the same way you do. Meeting someone new can cause many hidden anxieties to surface. Will they like me? Will I like them, what are their interests, what happens if the date is a disaster? What happens if the conversation doesn’t flow?
The key to successful dating is to relax!
Don’t sweat the small stuff, as worry and anxiety will spoil the whole experience for you. You should be excited and positive about the prospect of meeting someone new that could potentially be your true love.
If your date doesn’t turn out to be the one, take away something from the experience. Discover what makes you really happy and avoid judgements. Being judgemental destroys the opportunity to move forward and often results in blame. You’d be surprised at how many times I’ve seen two people that would have never considered meeting fall madly in love and never look back.
How to relax before playing the dating “game”.
There is so much you can do to help feel more confident and relaxed about dating. First of all plan and start researching. Arm yourself with dating knowledge, visit websites with dating tips, read books or hire a professional to offer you guidance and do most of the hard work for you.
Dating is a rich tapestry of life, there is so much out there waiting for you. So what are you waiting for? Get out there, have some fun and you may even find you have a date for Christmas lunch instead of turning up solo at the family dinner.
Samantha Jayne is an Executive Matchmaker and Dating Expert and Speaker at Blue Label Life specialises in Matchmaking for Busy Professionals who want to live a rich full life and achieve a successful relationship with a like-mined professional partner.