First date chit-chat nerves

I never know what to talk about on a first date.

I either talk too much or not enough.

How can I sound charismatic and confident when all I feel is a bundle of nerves?

You’re not alone. Your date may be just as nervous as you! It’s a proven fact that women don’t shut up.

Women say around 7000 words per day, while men manage just over 2000. So the odds are against you from the get-go.

The key to sounding confident is preparation; remove awkward silences by being engaging. Have a few questions up your sleeve, but stay away from clichés. Questions like; where to do you live, what do you do, Or even worse, what was your ex like, won’t get you far.

A great technique to keep the conversation flowing is ask her a lot of questions about herself. Put it back on here and let her do the chit chat. This way the pressure is off you for the talking and this will ease your nerves.

Another great technique is to practice some deep breathing before the date to get your nerves down. Remember, it’s all about having some fun so try to remember this even though your probably so nervous.

Again, keep expectations kind of low. This is a first date and not some huge important job interview. Try to keep your expectations low and don’t put too much pressure on yourself. This way you will be a lot calmer and you’ll find that the nerves are more settled. And, the consequence will be easier chit chat.


Ask her fun, thought provoking questions. Ask her if she could do anything in the world, what would she do? Talk about her favourite holiday, where she would like to go and why? Be cheeky. Ask her what character in a film or television show best represents her personality. A really great question is; do you prefer beach escapes or log fire weekends away? It’s these kind of subjects that will not only get her thinking, but leave you looking like the refreshing, easy-going chap she’s been waiting for.

Feel stressed about going on a first date?

Then the best thing you can do is call Robyn at Blue Label Life and she will be happy to answer any question you may have  about what to talk about on a first date. She is a relationship expert, so can offer you constructive and helpful advice about overcoming those first date nerves.

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