How to be patient when dating in this digitally obsessed era

How do we stay calm when waiting for a response?

When I was in my 20’s which was a fair while ago, there was no such thing as the internet or online dating. This just didn’t exist. I had a boyfriend who lived overseas and the way we communicated was through writing letters or long distance phone calls ( which were far too expensive). The only issue here was that sometimes there would be months in between letters and phone calls. The exciting part for me was walking past the letterbox hoping that the next letter would be there. I used to check it every single day. It became a natural thing for me to do.  There was the anticipation of wondering if the next letter would be there. I just loved it!

Now, if there wasn’t a letter I wouldn’t get disappointed I’d tell myself that it’s on the way and might come tomorrow. It might not even come tomorrow, or even next week. But, the important thing was to remain positive and keep on looking forward to the day it arrives. I never got negative and I never let my mind play tricks with me. I remained positive and in control of my emotions. I never felt as though I wasn’t a priority and I never thought for one moment that he was seeing someone else. I was patient & remained so until the letter eventually arrived.



Today, with technology speeding communication up and with social media platforms like Facebook, Instagram and YouTube we have somehow expected emotions to be instant. We want affirmations and confirmations instantly. And, if they are not forthcoming the panic sets in. What we have to realise is that our emotions and falling in love and still on the same time frame. Rushing things are a recipe for trouble.

The way to calm down when waiting for a response is to say to yourself: ‘ you know what, it might come tomorrow, it may come next week….it doesn’t really matter, because I will look forward to the day it comes’. You have to get along with your life and do the things you like doing without checking your phone every 5 minutes for a message or contact.

If it doesn’t come from him or her then it will come from someone else. If it’s meant to be then it’s meant to be. That’s fate, simple as that!

This is how to stay clam and patient in this digitally obsessed world. Be cool, level headed and never fire off email, messages, photos or texts on a whim. Think back to the old days and take a lesson from then. This method has worked for hundreds or years and will continue to do so into the future.

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