The Cougar: An endangered species?

Older-woman-younger-man relationships get plenty of attention. One only has to look as far as  celebrities like Demi Moore and Ashton Kutcher or classic films such as The Graduate or more recently, Courtney Cox’s hit television series Cougar Town to see that the cougar fiasco has unleashed its claws on society.

But will it last?

gradWell, a new study by The University of Wales says the cougar phenomenon’s nine lives may soon be up.

The study involved 22,000 men and women who are users of online dating/matchmaking websites. They came from 14 different countries including Australia, Brazil, Canada, China, Germany, Great Britain, Japan, Mexico, Russia, and South Africa.

Results showed that most men primarily prefer to date attractive, young females. Reason being is that they look to young woman as the answer to protecting the inevitable ageing process. Women, on the other hand, weren’t interested in being on the prowl for “Cubs”. They were seeking an older (and hopefully a wealthier man).

Of course, there are two sides to every story.

Truth is, cougars have been around for years. Look at Mrs. Robinson in The Graduate or Stifler’s mother in American Pie. These characters laid the ground work for an entirely new cultural phenomenon, which up until the 80s was almost taboo to speak of, let alone practice.

An increasingly large number of women have said “no” to being viewed as the submissive partner, and taken the lead in a societal trend that seems to be here to stay.

Psychological imprinting has made the older woman vital to the mental well being of men. Mothers, teachers and babysitters have all played a nurturing role, and men tend to habitually recast these roles throughout their life. So, for those of you who view cougars as needy women, desperately trying to regain their youth, consider the fact that these women know what they need to be happy. And judging from the surge in cougar-cub relationships , it goes far beyond sex and lust.

Or does it?

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