If you are new to the dating scene or have been recently single, divorced or find yourself unattached, the dating scene can be pretty daunting.
With so many dating options and so many single people looking to find a partner, you have to be on top of your game if you are going to make an excellent first impression.
So, the following are 3 golden tips for Aussie singles going on a date.
1) What is a good first date?
The first date should be thought of as an experience. I always tell my clients not to meet for a coffee on the first date, and the reason for this is that it seems far too casual. A coffee catch-up, in many instances, is just that. A catch-up for a quick coffee, then you’re on your way. A fast coffee date doesn’t feel like there’s too much effort and shows a lack of imagination and romance. It feels more like a work meeting where you’re slotting each other in for a 30 to 60-minute meet-up. A first date should be at the weekend because you have more free time and are much more relaxed. Plus, meet early or late in the afternoon and make sure you meet somewhere lovely with a casual ambience for a quiet drink, with an atmosphere that has a bit of a buzz and somewhere where other people are around. It could be near the beach where you can get dressed up and show your date that you have made an effort to look good. It’s good to meet on the first date for a drink only because you are not stuck with the other person if you are not connecting and struggling for conversation. But, if you are clicking, this is the perfect segway to go and have a bite to eat (if you have time). Suppose you are not a drinker and must make it to the pub or wine bar. In that case, I suggest going for a walk (weather dependent) or doing an activity (seeing a show or going to the local markets or something interesting happening nearby). But the takeaway here is to make it an experience because you become more relaxed and you can get to know each other better.
2) What to talk about and what not to talk about on a first date.
It’s best to avoid talking about past relationships or your experiences from past dates. Yes, there’s the temptation to discuss this but try to steer clear of these topics as they can become very pessimistic and sometimes become a counselling session. Remember you are on a date and want to have fun and get to know that other person. Previous bad date experiences close the door to this opportunity. So you want to keep the first date upbeat, positive and fun. Talk about things you are passionate about and love doing. Hobbies, jobs, travel, sport, pets, and anything that you love doing that might spark a positive common connection is a great conversation booster. Talk about things that inspire you and make you feel good. Remember, this will bring out the best in you and radiate positive energy, which is very attractive to the other person. Also, ask questions about the other person. What drives them, what are their life goals, what do they like doing, what makes them feel good, and when are they most happy? The conversation makes everyone feel good and brings a positive experience. From here, you’ll see the conversation start flowing a lot easier.
3) Who should pay for the first date?
The man should pay! It shows character and responsibility, and above all, it shows care which is why I always suggest that you meet somewhere nice for a drink that is not overly expensive for a first date. I’ve got many men clients, and one thing I can tell you is that men always appreciate women who offer to pay their share of the bill. So girls, take note you should always put your hand in your pocket (even if it’s for a drink) and pay your half. But, if the man insists on paying, sit back and appreciate the decent gesture. News backs this up in their article: Why men should always pay on the first date, where they say ‘Just imagine how someone like that will treat their significant other, their spouse. For a low, low price of 20, 30, 40 dollars or whatever, you learned that the person in front of you does not have the basic courtesy to pretend to offer to pay.’
There are many other crucial first-date tips, but these 3 should be enough to point you in the right direction. Of course, if you need any other dating tips or would like to reach out and get further advice, I’m more than happy to help you succeed on the dating scene.
