Whether you like it or not, Valentine’s Day is not far away after the New Year. Bouquets of red roses, heart shaped cards and boxes of chocolates are sprawled across shopfronts – ready to make their big debut on your social media page.
If you’ve been unlucky in love or have recently gone through a break up, it’s only natural for this annual holiday of romance to trigger feelings of loneliness. But just because you’re single doesn’t mean you have to miss out on the celebrations, in fact, there are many ways you can make the most of V-Day and create your own traditions.
Here are a few fun suggestions if you’re flying solo at this time of year:
Instead of focusing on how others are spending Valentine’s Day, focus on yourself and be kind to yourself. You don’t need to be in a relationship or receive gifts from someone to feel validated because your unique self is enough.
Take some time this Valentine’s Day to celebrate you and do something that makes you feel good. Switch off social media and swap it for a good book, movie or spa treatment!
If you are single and happen to be going on a date this Valentine’s Day, check out this hot tip from our matchmaker Robyn:
Celebrate Your Loved Ones
Some countries place higher value on friendship on Valentine’s Day. For example Finland celebrates ‘Friend’s Day,’ on 14th February. This holiday includes everybody on this day from friends and family to neighbours and colleagues, not only couples.
Having unconditional support from your family and friends is priceless and shouldn’t be taken for granted. Try creating your own tradition on Valentine’s Day by getting together with your family and friends over dinner or exchanging small gifts.
If you can’t shake off the melancholy feelings around Valentine’s Day because you don’t have someone special in your life, try practicing gratitude. Gratitude shouldn’t be limited to the “big things,” in life. The habit of being grateful starts with appreciating all the small good things around you.
Take Valentine’s Day as an opportunity to start a gratitude journal. Write down as many things you feel grateful for and why you are thankful. Try doing this regularly – every day, week, month or whatever works for you so you can commit to a routine. Next Valentine’s Day, and every day you can look back and reflect on all the positives in your life!
Reflect on Your Relationship Goals
If you’re single and finding a long-term partner is part of your life aspirations, visualise and think about what type of relationship you would like to have. Ask yourself what you are looking for in a partner.
Think about aspects that go beyond face value and write them down. If you have single friends who feel the same, try doing this exercise together. Consider what values your partner should have, how they like to have fun, their family goals and how they handle difficult times. Don’t be afraid to be descriptive! Envisioning what you want is often the first step to attracting what you want in your life.
If you need help finding that special someone, at Blue Label Life we take the time to get to know you and introduce you to people with the same values, similar lifestyle and priorities in life. All of our members are educated, financially secure, live a healthy lifestyle and are genuinely looking for a long term relationship.
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