Oh The First Date! It’s really a make or break moment and the first date questions you ask could mean the difference between jumping off the dating merry go round into the arms of your significant other.
I’m a BIG people watcher and I absolutely love sitting in a restaurant reading people especially first daters!!
You can spot them a mile off, they are the couple sitting a little too straight in their chairs, being a little too polite and laughing a little too much at each other’s strained attempts at jokes.
She orders something she doesn’t really want to eat, he drinks a little too much wine and by the end of the night they both stammer and wince through the awkward goodnight kiss dance that ends in a trodden on toe on her part and an unfortunate sweaty top lip on his.
It doesn’t have to be this way. A little preparation goes a long way! Just as you would prepare for your job interview you should do the same with your first date. Follow my tips with my great first date questions and things will be effortless on your date!
For successful singles manoeuvring your way through a first date can be more terrifying than chairing a board meeting, however this kind of painful experience is not necessary.
Here are some great first date questions that are guaranteed to get the conversation flowing:
1. What would your one perfect day entail?
2. When was the last time you really laughed? Why?
3. Who is your best friend? Tell me about them.
4. If you were on death row what would you chose for your last meal?
5. What are your pet peeves?
6. What were you like as a child?
7. What should I know about you that I would never think to ask?
Once you’ve asked one of these first date questions allow the conversation to flow and see where it takes you!
It is also really important to make sure you listen to what the other person shares, value their stories and participate in the conversation by sharing your own.
The most important thing to remember is that you are not going to learn everything you need to know about this person over one date, give each other time to become familiar, to become comfortable and don’t jump to conclusions before you know their full story.
And a big no no is to talk too much about yourself. It will leave your date feeling left out. If our date is the one doing most of the talking it’s actually a great thing!