How to Bounce Back from a Break up

Breakups hurt, they hurt a lot, and as much as we love it eating ice cream and binging on chocolates or alcohol it won’t help you bounce back any sooner.

It’s difficult to mend the broken pieces of your heart, especially when you thought you had found the love of your life.

As hard as it is to let go, it is always important to welcome a new chapter in your life. There is plenty of fish in the sea and it’s not too difficult to find that one fish that makes you reel in the rod.

Dopamine our “Happy Hormone’’, is produced in the hypothalamus, the same part of the brain responsible for hunger, thirst, moods and sex drive, just to name a few!

Unfortunately when we suffer a break up instead of stimulating the production of dopamine to help us through we stimulate the vagus nerve, responsible for pain, nausea and muscle tightness in the chest. So not only are we emotionally miserable without our happy hormone but we also suffer physical symptoms of distress!

This all sounds horrible but luckily we also know that the pain we feel is inversely related to our breakup stress. This means the closer we are to a breakup the more pain we feel and this pain starts to fade progressively with time.

The remaining question however is how do you get yourself back on the road to recover and ease that process? Here are some tips to help you bounce back from a breakup and get back to being your fabulous self!

1. Falling in love with yourself

As strange as this may sound, falling in love with yourself will give you the confidence-booster you need in order to move on from a devastatingly heartbreaking experience. Re-find the single you, the you that had hobbies, enjoyed cooking, had little home improvement projects lined up that got pushed aside as your time with taken up with being a couple. Now is the time to splurge on yourself, start from the outside and work your way in. Visit a day spa, go shopping, eat healthily and treat your body right. Take time to blast your favourite songs and watch your favourite trashy movies. Now is when you can be selfish without any guilt attached. Buy yourself some flowers and go for it!

2. By Using your Friends

Your best friend knows everything about you, they might even know you better than you know yourself. Lean on them if you need and don’t worry about asking for help, that is what your friends are for. Plan a weekend away with them, let them take you out, cry on their shoulder and let them help you move on. A best friend will be there with you through all the happiness and sorrow and when it comes to bouncing back from a break-up, friends are your stress relievers, your greatest supporters and they will keep you moving in a positive direction.

3. There is always a limitation on mourning

You can mourn and cry all you want but sometimes your eyes get tired of shedding so many tears. Eventually over a period of time a stronger you are ready to set deadlines on when you need to stop the grieving. This will not be easy but it is not impossible either. The longer the relationship, the more difficult it will be to manage the grief. Allow yourself to go through the stages of a breakup, shock, denial, anger, depression and acceptance. This is a process and it is systemic; just permit yourself to go through each stage and fight the temptation to go back to the past. You will come out of this process with a new lease on life, a new set of goals and an enthusiasm for the future.

Good luck on your road to recovery and remember that although it may hurt now the pain is only temporary. You will get through it, you will move on and you will get those dopamine juices flowing again!

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Robyn Nind is a dating coach and matchmaker at Blue Label Life. Robyn has helped countless singles find love and a partner.

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