I have to say to all you men out there, I’m glad that it’s you, not me, who has the responsibility for this one! Proposing to your girlfriend is one of the most overwhelming, gut-wrenching, stomach-churning, yet fulfilling moments of your life.
So you it’s finally hit you that she’s the one. How do you propose without making it look or sound like a crummy coming-of-age chick flick staring Mark Ruffalo?
I’m a big believer in standing out from the crowd, but the number one piece of advice I can pass down woman to man is to remain calm. I can’t tell you how many calls I’ve received from former female clients who are worried that the relationship is in dire straits as a result of their beau’s strange behaviour. If only they knew what was really going on!
Relaxing is easier said than done, right? After all, you’re about to ask the single most important question in your life. What could wrong? What if she says no? What if the thought of committing sends her on the first plane out of there?
Haha, I’m just kidding around! But seriously, here’s a couple pointers that will help alleviate stress and anxiety
The Ring: Selecting the right ring
This is a big one! If you don’t really know her style, or if she’s very particular about jewellery, I recommend buying a loose diamond. Not only is it romantic to design the ring together, but the ring itself will forever remain a symbol of your timeless, one-of-a-kind relationship.
If you’re determined to propose with an already-made ring, consult someone you trust (i.e. someone without a blabber mouth). Measure the circumstance of your soon to be fiancée’s ring finger while she’s asleep (preferably after a few drinks so you know she’s out cold, but you didn’t hear that from me!). Most importantly, try and find a ring that’s symbolic of your girlfriend’s personality.
The Location – Think outside the square
Remember, people are going to constantly ask “how did he propose?”
Take her to a place of great significance to you. It may be where you had your first kiss, first date, first overseas holiday, anyone really! Got that place? Good. Now make sure you bring some good bubbly (the real stuff boys!), nice food and spend some quiet time together before popping the question. Embrace the moment. Bask in what promises to be the last remaining moments of your life as you know it. It all changes, and I’m talking the good kind here.
TIP: When travelling to your destination, hide the ring really well. I’m all for treasure hunts, but discovering this shiny object before its time is a major buzz-kill!
The Question – Finding the words
“Insert girlfriend’s name here, you make me happy. Like really happy. I like, want to be with you forever and stuff. Which is why I want you to be my wife. Whaddya say?”
Guys, I know you’re nervous and all, but think of the question as the 1-2 knockout punch in the proposal. It’s a chance to put into words everything that your bride-to-be means to you. It’s an opportunity to proclaim to the world feelings long held in the sacred space of your heart. Think carefully about the words you choose to say. Believe me, they will forever be etched in her memory bank. Don’t be afraid to write it down if you’re not the best public speaker. I think it’s kind of sweet!
If Mark Ruffalo can do it, so can you!
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