Walk up to any man and ask him this question and his answer will be simple if he wants to commit he will. Simple as that.
Men are not the complex creatures we make them out to be through our constant dissections of their actions and conversations.
Updated by Robyn Nind 14 August 2020
They are really pretty straight forward and if a man is into you, you will know it.
The truth is there are a huge number of single men ready to find a solid relationship and begin a new phase in their lives, they just need to find the right woman.
The increase of men signing up to online dating websites or matchmaking services has increased exponentially in the last five years. More and more men are willing to invest their time and money into making sure they are compatible with their potential dates, and to ensure that their next relationship will have longevity.
They are looking for successful single women who share their desire to commit. So why does it seem so difficult to find them?
The secret to how to make a man commit is easier than you think, read on.
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Here are some tips on finding a man
1. He is not in a night club
If you think your next long term relationship is waiting for you pressed up against a speaker, enjoying the vibrations of the subwoofer in a night club then you need to think again. The only thing that man is looking for is the drunk 22-year-old who couldn’t quite make it with the DJ. Move on.
The type of man you are looking for is looking for you too. Once he has decided it is time to settle down he is going to cease the immature behaviour of his past.
Look for him in a café enjoying a coffee, walking his dog in the park or offering you his seat on the bus. If this is still not specific enough why not take direct action and join a dating website or matchmaking service. Here you will find men who have put their money where their mouth is. For best results, it is wiser to join one where there is a joining fee, that way you know he is serious and his intentions are genuine. Plus, don’t spend too much time on dating apps like Tinder, Bumble RSVP or Hinge. These can be a huge waste of time and energy. These are fine if you want to hook up or have a quick fling, but for those looking for a serious relationship, these apps are definitely a no go zone.
2. Make sure you establish an intention
So you are a successful single woman and you have found someone who is happy to be your clothes hanger while you’re shopping and enjoys reading the business section of the paper leaving you your favourite international affairs, perfect!
Before you get carried away on a cloud of couples hiking trips and matching pyjamas make sure you are both on the same page. Communication is key. You don’t want to waste your time so you need to talk about where you see this relationship going. You don’t have to take your relationship into third gear but you do need to know you’ll get there.
Enjoy each other and building the relationship but if it is 100% commitment that you want then you need to say it. Save yourself the pain of becoming attached only to find out your man is going to require every second weekend off.
3. Don’t Play Games
This goes for women who are already in relationships and want the man to commit as well as for those starting from scratch with commitment as their goal. Games are for children.
If he is playing games with you then you need to think twice about how much you want to be involved with this man. I’m sorry to say it but if he is playing games with you then he probably isn’t ready for commitment and unfortunately, you have probably picked the wrong man. This is why steps one and two are so important. You are a successful woman who is able to go out and find what you are looking for.
Don’t waste time on the charmers and Casanovas invest your time in finding a like-minded individual, communicate with them and then enjoy yourself!
If you’re interested in meeting some fantastic guys please chat with Robyn, your expert matchmaker at Blue Label Life.
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