Guys, if you’ve been out of the dating scene and your over 50, don’t stress. The road to finding love doesn’t have to be challenging, it can be exciting.

The following article will give you some helpful tips for guys who are about to launch themselves on the dating scene. Read on; you can thank us later.

Posted by Robyn Nind on 16 June 2020

For most guys, the ’50s are years you would expect to be settled down comfortably with the love of your life watching the kids grow up, going to dinner parties and holidays with you’re family.

But sometimes life throws us a curveball and we end up in situations we’d never thought possible. You might be divorced, going through a separation, lost a loved one or still single and unlucky in love.

Being single in you’re 50’s is not a crime and nor does it reflect any type negative status symbol. It’s nothing to be ashamed of. If you find that you’re still looking for Mrs Right then the following tips should help you navigate the path of finding love in you’re 50’s.

Also read: Dating a guy in his 50’s – some essential tips

Tip 1. Be proactive

Try not to feel sorry for yourself and dwell on what got you into this position. Sure, you may have had some bad luck, but there’s no benefit in expending all this negative energy fretting about your situation. Take the initiative and do something positive about finding a partner. Look at your past experience as a way of showing you what’s important in your life.

Through learning from our experiences and growing as a person, it is now an excellent time to take a strategic approach to meet someone new.

Go on a few dates, keep your options open until you meet someone compatible. Proactivity doesn’t necessarily mean that you have to go on hundreds of dates, but it means that you are open-minded to meet someone and are prepared to go on at least one or two dates. If you’re struggling to find a partner, there are numerous online dating apps, but you can also use the services of a dating agency or matchmaker if you want the right result.

Also read: 8 Reasons Why You Need a Matchmaker

Tip 2. Buy some new clothes

OK, if you’ve been in a relationship or marriage for a long time the one thing you have probably let slip is your sense of fashion. Times have changed, and so does the need for a wardrobe makeover. The best idea is to get a stylist to look at your clothes and go on a shopping trip with you to your nearest Westfield. They are inexpensive, and it’s well worth it to give your look the polish up it needs in preparation for your first date. This will give you a boost lift your energy which will help attract the right person.

Tip 3. Hit the gym

A no-brainer, especially if you have let yourself go and piled on the kilos around the waist. Join a gym, go for a run, do your morning sit-ups, go for a surf and get into shape. You’ll look better, and you will start to feel more confident and better about yourself. Sex appeal and first impressions count when you meet someone for the first time so you must look in shape to make a good impression. Gyms are all open now as COVID-19 eases, so there are no excuses anymore. It is important to love yourself first.

Tip 4. Don’t hit the booze too hard

First dates can be nerve-racking, especially if you’ve been in a relationship for a long time. Making small chit chat can be extremely hard with a stranger and the temptation to ease the nerves by slamming down a few wines can be hard to resist. Take it easy. It’s OK to have one social wine, but more than this may send the wrong message and you may end up saying things you regret. Yes, it’s hard to date when you’ve been out of the loop, but your mojo will come back after a few times. A way to help you is to focus on building a solid friendship first. This takes the pressure off yourself and helps you relax.

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Tip 5. Don’t overdo the aftershave

Don’t put too much of this stuff on. A small amount should suffice and remember you’re not in your 20’s so get a more sophisticated aftershave.

Tip 6. Try to keep ex-girlfriends and wives off-topic

It’s OK to mention your current status but don’t talk about your ex too much. And, never put your ex down in a derogatory fashion. Badmouthing exes ( especially if it was a nasty break up ) makes you look terrible, and it can show a negative side of you that you don’t want to display on a date.

Tip 7. Pay for the coffee, drinks or meal.

Guys be a gentleman. Even if she offers to pay, insist that you’ve got it. Splitting the bill on the first date makes you look cheap and sets a precedent for what life together might look like if you end up being a couple.

Tip 8. Keep your mobile phone in your pocket

Checking your email, your What’s App or even worse making calls on a date is a huge turnoff. She wants you to focus on her and not on your phone. If your phone addiction is so bad that you have to check messages, learn to control yourself.

Tip. 9 Be on time.

Lateness without a decent explanation is a deal-breaker. Don’t keep people waiting. You might think it’s fashionable to be late, but in all honesty, it isn’t polite.

Tip 10. Don’t expect sex on the first date

Just remember your not in your 20’s and those party days are long gone. Expecting any kind of physical intimacy on a first meet and greet is not what you should focus on. You’re looking for a connection, a life partner so you should get to know them first and see if you are compatible. One night stands, friends with benefits or hook-ups are fine if you’re transparent about it from the onset but don’t think long term partner.

In summary

Dating can be daunting especially for those in their 50’s, but it can be made easy with a helping hand. Don’t hesitate to contact a dating agency ( like us at Blue Label Life ) who will do all the hard work for you in your search for the right partner. Plus they can offer you feedback after every date you go on. This way you can fine-tune your dating techniques till you are more comfortable doing this.

Struggling to find a partner? Fed up with dating apps and wasting time on pointless dates?

You troubles are over! Have you thought about using  a professional matchmaker? Read on; you’ll thank us later.

Matchmaking has been around for hundreds of years if not longer and the principle of matchmaking still remains the same; the idea of bringing two single unattached people together with the hope of marriage. It’s that simple yet many people are still unclear about the benefits of a matchmaker and why utilising the services of a matchmaker is a pretty good idea.

Following is a great list of why busy, single professional people should be using a matchmaker in today’s digitally obsessed environment.

Also read: Dating Agency Sydney : what’s the cost & is it worth it?

1. A matchmaker will save you loads of time & effort.

When you hire a matchmaker you don’t have to stress about going to bars, or to a gym or perhaps your yoga studio to meet someone. Sure you can still engage in these social activities but you don’t have to be constantly on the look out to meet someone. Now, your matchmaker can do this for you while your busy doing the things you like. You might find that you enjoy these more without the added hassle of being on the look out for the next Mr or Mrs Right. Plus, you don’t have to be always checking your Tinder or Bumble at night or updating your profile as your matchmaker is doing all the searching on your behalf. What a fabulous service this is, especially if you have a very busy schedule.

2. Matchmakers are great if your shy.

If your a bit of an introvert and uncomfortable approaching strangers at a bar or in a cafe then this headache is long gone with a matchmaker doing the hard groundwork for you. This is because the matchmaker is the middle man and will introduce you to many people. So you can forget about all those nerve racking, palm sweaty moments. Those days are long gone with when a professional matchmaker is by your side. Also, a matchmaker will fully brief you on the person you are going to meet, you will see their photo beforehand and will be able to mentally prepare yourself. This makes like so much easier for those shy men and women among us.

3. A matchmaker should be good at what they do.

Most matchmakers will have some type of certification that they have been trained in this skill. If so, then you know that your dealing with someone professional that will be able to perform their job as expected. But, a good idea is to check a matchmakers website and perhaps a few reviews before you decide to take the plunge.

4. Matchmaker can customise your search.

When you initially meet your matchmaker ( and most first introductions are free), they will want to get to know you a bit better and learn more about the type of person your looking for. They will discuss things like; the ideal age, their income, profession, where they live, their body type, personality, political persuasion and what type of sports they’re into. All this information will be collated so that the matchmaker can fog through their extensive database and customise their search based on your specific criteria. Utilising a matchmaker is not like online dating where you can choose from an unlimited pile of profiles. A matchmaker will filter most profiles and find the ones that are perfectly suited for you. Again, this saves you so much time, effort and anxiety.

5. Introductions are a guarantee.

When you go to a club, bar or any event, the chances of you actually meeting and clicking with someone are slim; especially for those of us who are over 40. Meeting people when you were in your 20’s and 30’s was easy but as you get older these opportunities diminish, unless you have a super large network or friends. Going to a bar when your over 40 isn’t as fun as it used to be and in fact it can seem boring. With a matchmaker you’re guaranteed of an introduction; this is why they take you on as a client. Most legitimate matchmakers will only take you on as a client if they feel as though they can help you meet someone. Simply put, you can stop worrying as you will meet someone.

6. They will be with you throughout the dating process.

Once you engage the services of a matchmaker they can be as hands on as you like or if you prefer they can take a back seat. Most matchmakers will want feedback after every introduction and will offer you feedback on what your date said about you. This is great as you can take this information on board to use for your next date. Having this type of partner by your side will boost your confidence and help you navigate the dating pathways.

If you feel as thought he date didn’t go as well as you thought it would then your matchmaker will find out why and offer constructive advice and feedback. A matchmaker will also push your dating boundaries and dating types. If you’ve always gone for blondes then you might end up meeting a brunette. They are there to enhance all your dating possibilities and choices. You couldn’t ask for a better solution if your looking to meet someone.

7. Its very safe

Unlike online dating where every person you meet could be risky a matchmaker will screen all people before you meet them. Dating for most people can be an anxious experience but you don’t want to add a danger factor in there. A matchmaker helps eliminates this.

8. It’s really good value

Think about your time and the value you place on it. If you have previously used dating apps and found them to be a waste of time, a matchmaker will put an end to all those wasted hours scrolling through thousands of profiles. Just think about all the hours you have spent scrolling Tinder and all those hours spent meeting people who you have absolutely zero connection with. It’s your time and it’s really valuable. A matchmaker will give you back all this time.

If your still on the fence and undecided about using the services of a matchmaker after reading these great points why not have a chat with Robyn Nind at Blue Label Life. You can read more about us here. It’s completely obligation free and with offices in Sydney and Melbourne we have made it really easy for you to be on your way to meeting someone special. Call 1300 553 510.

Most of the singles in Australia are either about to use an online dating app or they are already well on their way to dating someone. Perhaps they are serial daters bouncing from one person to the next.

But what happens if your too shy or perhaps a tad too introverted to paste your photo all over Tinder, eHarmony or Bumble? What happens if you are too nervous to take that first step in meeting someone or chatting with a complete stranger online? This is a terrible conundrum for someone who is single and who is keen to meet their partner.

What do shy people who want to find a partner do?

What happens if they are too shy to go to the pub or a bar and make the first move? Or, their social circles are far too small that the prospect of meeting someone is almost zero.

This is where a dating agency can help those shy, timid & bashful singles out there.

If all this sounds too familiar and your starting to think that the chances of you falling in love and meeting your partner will never happen then please what ever you do; don’t fret or stress about it too much as there is a solution. This is called a dating agency.

For those shy people who have never heard of a dating agency or have never thought of using one Let me explain to you what we do.

A dating agency or dating service is a business that acts as a matchmaker between two people with a definite view towards a monogamous relationship or marriage. Essentially, they do all the hard work on you’re behalf in looking for a partner. There is a fee involved as you have to pay for this matchmaking service.

Also read: Everything You Need To Know About A Dating Agency

Matchmakers have been around for centuries and at their core the formula hasn’t changed too much. Their job description is too go through their database of eligible singles that you might like and who might fit your profile.

So, for example if you’re into computers their role would be to find someone who shares your interests as well. If you’re a sporty type the same applies. They will look for someone whose into running, swimming, cycling etc.

First date nerves

Most shy people think that going on a first date is absolute hell and they will do absolutely anything to avoid a situation like this. This is why there are so many shy singles in Australia.

It’s those first date nerves and the stress associated with meeting a starnger for the first time. Even for seasoned daters who have been hanging on Tinder for years a first date can get those butterflies going. Just imagine how it is for those poor buggers who are dating novices. It must be hell for them. The prospect of going on a date must be a nightmare.

Thoughts like : will he or she like me,  what are we going to talk about and what happens if I start panicking? These are all rationale thoughts shy people have to contend with.

This is where the dating agency steps in to help calm those first date nerves. At Blue Label Life we coach you and provide the moral support and coaching you need to get past you’re first date and what’s even better you’ll end up probably having a good time.

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The reason for this is you get to see the profile of the person you are about to date and their photo. Plus, we will only match you with someone who shares you’re interest and values. This is a big step in nullifying those nerves as you are going to meet someone who you have seen and someone who has the same interests as you.

If you are reading this and are still not convinced that you can go through with this, then Robyn (our head matchmaker) will be able to coach you through those first date nerves and set out a clear guideline of steps you need to follow in order to make that first date a success.

In other words she will be part of you’re journey in finding a partner and be there with you the whole way.

For shy people this is the ultimate solution in helping you find a life long partner. The worst thing you can do is put you’re love life of the back shelf and think it’s all too hard and that you’re too shy to move forward with this. Remember, this is what we do and we are experts at it.